I need your help on choosing the wheels.
I am looking for a 17x8 or 18x8.5 size.
Is there a WHEEL I should not consider for any reason let me know. Thanks ...

1. ABT A25
<img src="http://pictureposter.audiworld.com/31619/a25.jpg" />

2. RH AG
<img src="http://pictureposter.audiworld.com/31619/ag_cup.jpg" />

3. FK
<img src="http://pictureposter.audiworld.com/31619/fk_wheel.jpg" />

4. Radius R7
<img src="http://pictureposter.audiworld.com/31619/r7big2.jpg" />

5. Radius R8
<img src="http://pictureposter.audiworld.com/31619/r8.jpg" />

6. Rondell 73
<img src="http://pictureposter.audiworld.com/31619/rondell73.jpg" />

7. Rondell 76
<img src="http://pictureposter.audiworld.com/31619/rondell_67.jpg" />

8. Rondell 72
<img src="http://pictureposter.audiworld.com/31619/rondell_72.jpg" />

9. Toora T630
<img src="http://pictureposter.audiworld.com/31619/t630.jpg" />
<img src="http://pictureposter.audiworld.com/31619/t630_06.jpg" />

10. Toora Coronelly
<img src="http://pictureposter.audiworld.com/31619/tcanobig.jpg" />
<img src="http://pictureposter.audiworld.com/31619/tcanobig2.jpg" />

11. IT Riva Italia 17"
<img src="http://pictureposter.audiworld.com/31619/at_riva_ci3_l.jpg" />

12. Speedline 2310
<img src="http://pictureposter.audiworld.com/31619/2310.jpg" />

13. Speedline 2312
<img src="http://pictureposter.audiworld.com/31619/2308.jpg" />

because it doesn't come in 5x112 bolt pattern, IIRC. BMW fitments only, if I'm not mistaken.

Most of the pictures look like low offset wheels?

I even bent them going 10mph!!!!

...many of those look like low (or negative) offset wheels, which would not do for you.