Kevin Maloney

Can you explain that you saved about $5000 "downgrading" the the 4 cylinder but only because you knew that you could match the power by chipping the 4cyl? And you will get your money back on re-sale.

Mobilehavoc

So I don't think I have any angle on this...my wife is unbeatable logic and common sense on her side that I can't break through. The car is leased so her thing is why spend $600 on something that I'll only have for another 2 years and then the next lucky owner/dealer that gets it. I don't plan on keeping the car.

She's smart, her new thing is "well if you had bought the car I'd be fine with it"...ARRGGGHHHH. LOL!

JasonR-NYC

Doesn't an ECU upgrade pay for itself in about 10 years in fuel economy savings? Maybe sooner with higher fuel costs. That 1 MPG improvement adds up over time.

specb

I bought my wife her own Audi. I do what I want to the Suby.

specb

Honestly though, we've scraped month to month in the past. Best way to get things I wanted was to simply state what I wanted and how I'd find the cash. Most of the time this meant cleaning out the garage and putting stuff up on ebay. It worked both ways, I made her clean out her closet and post up stuff when she wanted an espresso machine.

JasonR-NYC

Convince APR to make an annual subscription pricing model. They've figured out how to do a 'timed' mode for trial use. I would think they could find a way to work the same kind of magic with timing and offer a product for leased cars more affordably. That's not to say it would necessarily be in their best interest.

Scotty (UK)

Some people have weird relationships with their partners.

What happened to "whats yours is mine and what's mine is yours"?

I bet a lot also have separate bank accounts and hide cash from their partners too. :-/

coolnesh

Soctty on a lighter note, the new saying you have your partners say is "Whats mine is mine and whats yours is also mine"

Mobilehavoc - Go do it buddy... get the chip... and find a way to deal with it. diamonds or purses usually work.

And we here are always there for support

Bob58

"What's mine is mine. What was your's is mine and anything you could ever dream of having is mine."

Hobbes

Where is it written that marriage must follow that template?

Our finances are joined, but we have decided to dedicate a portion of those finances for each spouse to spend as they like. This was a mutual decision that we decided would work for us (and it has). There are no hidden accounts or nefarious implications, but neither of us has to beg or wheedle to make relatively minor purchases.

I don't know how this makes our relationship "weird".